How do you get out of financial struggle when you are “in” it? Well I was not always aware of being in financial struggle but after I was divorced I really went there…big time and the worse part was that I didn’t know who to ask for help and was “proud”, so it was difficult to humble myself enough to go somewhere and say I’m drowning and I don’t know how to change this situation.
When I look back; if I had been willing to seek someone who would help me, I may have stopped the pattern of struggle much earlier than I did instead of putting my health at risk and therefore my life.
My struggle was already in me and I was “trying” to keep my life together or look as if I was together for my children and myself and my society. I was also “trying” to make it all work and thought I could because I was a “good” person but getting into debt. I’ve learnt a lot about ‘Trying”. It doesn’t work! These days if I become aware that I am trying and trying and trying (hear that struggle)….I stop look at it and ask myself “what am I doing?” Then I re-assess what I’m trying at and how long I’ve been trying.
What I’ve learnt is that you have to be willing to draw a line in the sand and say that’s enough of that pattern. Struggle and trying are a pattern. It also affects your health.
Struggle is really a symptom of working against your own values and usually not having the right education in a particular area eg wealth building and financial management. So, stop and start again! Re-assess your own values; what is important to you. Book into a good course or find a good mentor or coach. You have to stop living your life according to other people’s values or you will always struggle. That means also living within your means and not the inflated means of our society and having everything to look cool. You have to find your courage to say ” I don’t want to do this to myself anymore”, no more struggle”. “I now choose to live abundantly with good cash flow”. When you make this choice you will find out how to do this. Jane